Why older women do indeed matter
As the 2024 presidential election was picking up steam, one of JD Vance’s lightening comments resurfaced in which he complained that the country was soon to be run by “a … Read more
Dr. Ashley Solomon
The cost of living life online
Many years ago, as a baby psychologist, I started to make a little bit of a name for myself by talking to other mental health professionals about using social media … Read more
We are terrible at endings, but we can get better
For a long time, whenever any friend would respond to my news of divorce with the concerned surprise I’d come to expect, I’d be quick to respond with some bumbling … Read more
The Drama Triangle will change how you look at every conflict
I haven’t written anything since before Election Day. At the time I’m writing this, that’s quite nearly a month. There’s been a national holiday and some massive work projects in … Read more
A few dollops of hope for this particular moment
I’m going to state the very obvious: we’re in a fraught season. It’s one that can easily pull us into anxiety, cynicism, and even despair if we’re not careful. And … Read more
This is my top relationship advice, hands down
“I didn’t ask why his day had been bad. I’d asked this question so many times before, I thought I already knew the answers: his frustration with work, or else … Read more
5 Questions on Raising Boys with Ruth Whippman
A few months ago, I shared my reflections on reluctantly becoming a mom to a brood of boys. I got more responses to that essay than almost any prior, highlighting … Read more
Widening the lens
Over the past year or so, I’ve been going through a really difficult situation. At various points, I was convinced that I would not survive it, at least not with … Read more
5 Questions on Breaking Up with Gina Gomez
Several months ago, I had the idea to reach out to some of my very favorite authors, thinkers, and creators to ask them five questions about their work. It felt … Read more
How can we make sense of depression?
One of my many part-time gigs in graduate school was working on a research study through the local children’s hospital. My job was to go visit with postpartum mothers in … Read more
This is how parenting leads to burnout
First the water was too hot, and she whined that touching it felt like a sunburn. When I turned the cold dial to cool it down, she wailed that it … Read more
Could psychedelics change all of our minds?
You could say that my marriage was on its last legs by the time I sent the article to my husband, but that gives the image of something somewhat upright. … Read more