This is how parenting leads to burnout
First the water was too hot, and she whined that touching it felt like a sunburn. When I turned the cold dial to cool it down, she wailed that it … Read more
Dr. Ashley Solomon
Could psychedelics change all of our minds?
You could say that my marriage was on its last legs by the time I sent the article to my husband, but that gives the image of something somewhat upright. … Read more
What I’m doing to not lose my shit in these political times
Several weeks ago, I wrote on Instagram about the weird and hard place it is to exist as a therapist in these fraught political times. I wrote it shortly after … Read more
I never wanted to be a #boymom, but the universe laughed.
In my early years of courtship and then marriage to my former husband, I’d often retell the story of my fabled first encounter with his mother. He’d taken me to … Read more
Is everyone’s ex actually a narcissist?
An interesting thing happened on my social media feed in the wake of separating from my now ex-husband. If I really think hard, it might have even been in the … Read more
I’m getting married again. Here’s what I’m doing differently.
I asked my partner the other night if he thought it was crazy that we were getting married given our first go-round (to other people) didn’t stick. Mind you, I … Read more
Information overload and its assault on mothers
There’s an account I’ve followed for a while now on Instagram curated by an absolutely lovely, smart, and seemingly great-hearted woman who lives local to me. She’s has PhD in … Read more
There’s beauty in the breakup
A few years ago I was standing in the dimly lit back room of a small bourbon bar. My high school was hosting an alumni event there, and a classmate … Read more
Time heals all wounds, and other falsehoods
I’ve realized recently how much I’ve spent the past year thinking about time and how we spend it. I’ve been thinking about it in the existential, reflecting on the profoundly … Read more
Is quitting therapy the answer?
I get an email newsletter called “One Great Story,” and on many days I get suckered in to reading what some unnamed person (more likely, entity) has decided is the one thing … Read more
A new paradigm of mental health is happening. Are we ready for it?
Several years ago, I was standing in the Capitol Building in D.C. in a long-sleeved maroon dress that stretched tightly over my 37-week pregnant belly. I was sweating my ass … Read more
Yes, we’re masterminds. We have to be.
A close friend of mine was recently dating a man who seemed, for all intents and purposes, to be a pretty good guy. They’d been seeing each other for several … Read more