The ones who know our waves
I’ve been working my way through one of Ann Patchett’s beautiful books of essays lately and just finished the piece that the book is named after, These Precious Days. In it, … Read more
Relationships
Has divorce become the feminist litmus test?
When my own marriage started to unravel and it was clear that we were starting down the path of divorce, my stomach would seize up when I thought about sharing … Read more
When the story needs rewritten
At least once or twice per year, in some holiday or other gathering of my parents, brothers, and sometimes extended family, my parents love to drop in one of their … Read more
Would you choose your partner over again?
I’m going to tell you the story of an interaction I had with my ex-husband several years ago. And he’s going to look like an asshole, and I’m going to … Read more
The grandparent gap
An hour or so after arriving at my office this morning and with a full day of clients ahead of me, I got the dreaded phone call from the school … Read more
Moments of repair
I watched him maneuver toward her through the empty chairs and beach towels, stepping over the floaties that had been discarded by the littlest cousins. Second cousins? I could never … Read more
Freaks in the sheets: Could excel protect your relationship?
Dating after divorce is a special kind of experience. By special, I mostly mean fascinating and something that truly no one can prepare you for. A few of my divorced … Read more
This is the currency of love
She comes into the bathroom where I rub cleanser on my face, her tiny feet scraping my tan heels against the floor as she crosses the tile. I can see … Read more
All the people that live within
I picture her sitting cross legged on a big blue wingback chair. An oversized sweater is wrapped around her body, though she will loosen it soon as the fire next … Read more
Was divorce the only way to rebalance the mental load?
“Join Us!” the subject line shouted from my inbox. Not yet sure whether I was being invited to a MLM selling diet pills or a LinkedIn webinar, I clicked through. … Read more
Irreconcilable differences: When you and your partner can’t seem to bridge the gap
I’ve had my fair share of tricky social exchanges since getting divorced last year, as everyone who’s been in this special boat does. The worst, by far, are the pitying … Read more
What deserves a second chance?
I could tell that there was something else holding her back, and I wanted to help her name it. She’d been struggling with whether to go to couple’s therapy with … Read more