On hellos and goodbyes
At my grandmother’s funeral earlier this year, my aunt gave the eulogy. In a church filled with her legacy – her people – she recounted Sylvia’s misadventures and tender moments. … Read more
Motherhood & Parenting
You Might Be Right. But Is It Working?
My kids hated to see me coming on a Saturday morning. They’d be scattered around the house – deep in cartoons, video games, or craft projects – still in pajamas, … Read more
Raising Boys Who Don’t Look Away
Given the state of our world lately, I’ve felt a growing sense of responsibility about how I am raising the next generation. As a parent of both sons and a … Read more
Are we post-feminism?
“My own definition is a feminist is a man or a woman who says, yes, there’s a problem with gender as it is today and we must fix it, we … Read more
Basslines and bedtimes: A midlife mom embraces EDM
It was a particularly long weekend day spent with my kids agitating each other. One of those where I prayed for silence but also feared it, because those rare quiet … Read more
From Bleachers to Burnout: Parenting Through the Youth Sports Frenzy
I’ve certainly written about some sensitive topics in this space, talking about everything from one of the worst days of my marriage to psychedelics to gender grief in parenting. And … Read more
We weren’t meant to parent like this: what attachment theory missed and how alloparenting can save us
Late last year, I made my way hurriedly down the aisle and slid as quietly as I could into one of the last remaining seats. I’d been running late, as … Read more
I never wanted to be a #boymom, but the universe laughed.
In my early years of courtship and then marriage to my former husband, I’d often retell the story of my fabled first encounter with his mother. He’d taken me to … Read more
Information overload and its assault on mothers
There’s an account I’ve followed for a while now on Instagram curated by an absolutely lovely, smart, and seemingly great-hearted woman who lives local to me. She’s has PhD in … Read more
The heartbreak of outgrowing our parents
If you ran into my dad in a theater or at a coffee shop, you would almost certainly end up having a long conversation – whether you had the time … Read more
How Being the “Perfect Parent” Can Damage Your Partnership
It’s hard to overstate the impact that the transition to parenthood has on couples. Your free time, your finances, your physical intimacy, your identities – so much changes. The impact … Read more
When the story needs rewritten
At least once or twice per year, in some holiday or other gathering of my parents, brothers, and sometimes extended family, my parents love to drop in one of their … Read more
