Why You Feel Like an Impostor, And the Rest of Us Do Too
It used to surprise me. I’d be sitting in a therapy room with a VP at a multinational company and she would describe the exact same phenomenon that I’d heard … Read more
Women’s Health
Does a maternal instinct actually exist?
He was laying on my chest, this globular little human covered in undefined fluids, and I just stared at him with my mouth agape. I knew he’d just emerged from … Read more
Ditching Diets, A New Year’s Resolution
It’s already happening. Before you’ve been given the chance to see this year out, you’re being pushed to PLAN! EXECUTE! THRIVE! in the next one. It’s exhausting. I’m exhausted. Deals … Read more
Are women actually better at multitasking?
On a brisk morning walk a few years ago, I was talking with a friend about the pervasive challenge of the mental load. More specifically, I was discharging my own … Read more
The case for slowing down
I started reading Katherine May’s Wintering at the tail end of 2020, a year that we’re all too aware was one of the emotionally chilliest. It’s a beautiful, contemplative book, … Read more
Is marriage bad for women?
Taking a quick scan through dating app profiles of men interested in women will inevitably turn up a few cringe-worthy things – shirtless pics, spelling errors, and a lame attempt … Read more
Reconnecting with pleasure: Five practices to start
As human beings, we’re wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain – at least so we’re told. It’s a gross oversimplification of what is actually a complex neurobiological process, but … Read more
We’re tired. Why do we keep working so much?
Regardless of our field, the pandemic upturned the working world and forced almost all of us into new patterns. As we’ve heard analyzed probably quite sufficiently by this point, these … Read more
Three strategies to face the fear of failure
One of my favorite things on the internet – and given the amount of time I spent there, this means a lot – is Reshma Saujani’s #FailureFriday series. Every week, … Read more
How many of these invisible labor tasks have you done this week?
She has a vague recollection of setting down her coffee somewhere between the kitchen and her bedroom, but now she can’t find it. Maybe she did go into the bathroom … Read more
What I wish I knew (about myself) before marriage
I remember all those years ago sitting around a suburban living room with my closest girlfriends ready to be asked trivia questions about my soon-to-be husband. I was unreasonably nervous … Read more
The most common confessions I hear as a therapist
There are so many sacred moments in therapy, but there is one that is perhaps the most profound for me as a psychologist. Sometimes it happens within the first few … Read more