The Most Important Question I Ask In Therapy
When someone sits down with me and tells me about a difficult or traumatic experience they’ve endured – especially when that experience was early on in life – there are … Read more
Mental Health & Trauma
Story After State: Why Solving Your To-Do List Won’t Calm Your Nervous System
It’s Saturday morning and the tiniest hint of light is creeping in, just barely beginning to illuminate the dark blanket of sky outside of your window. Your eyes flash open … Read more
Addicted to Worry: Why and How to Break the Habit
Growing up, on the evening of every first day of school you could find me sitting on my bed surrounded by my various classes’ syllabi. I now had in my … Read more
Why we keep trying: What newer therapy models reveal about change
If you’ve been a therapist and spent any time on an airplane or at a dinner party, you’ve certainly experienced the playing out of a familiar trope: You tell someone … Read more
The Hidden Mental Health Needs of High-Bandwidth People
If you resonate with the idea of being a high-bandwidth human and have spent time seeking out mental health support, it’s likely that at some point you’ve probably felt somewhat … Read more
The Filter Theory: Why Everything Feels Like Too Much (or Nothing at All)
There are mornings where I wake up and stumble into my kitchen for my morning coffee and the sight of dishes piled near the sink, half-baked crafts, open cabinets, and … Read more
How to Break Free from Urgency Culture
There’s a version of Murphy’s Law that’s held true in my house since children came into the picture. It says: the more of a rush we’re in, the more impossible … Read more
Incrementalism in an Age of Despair
“Maybe working on the little things as as dutifully and honestly as we can is how we stay sane when the world is falling apart.” – Haruki Murakami There are … Read more
Life Inside a High-Bandwidth Mind
Many years ago now, when one of my children was going through an evaluation process for suspected ADHD, I stumbled into the world of twice exceptionality. Often abbreviated as “2e,” … Read more
The Myth of Your “True Self”
The other day I was listening to a podcast interview with Elizabeth Gilbert about her latest book, All the Way to the River. My husband was in the car, and … Read more
What Rough Initiations Teach Us
There was a night early in the process of my divorce where I found myself trying desperately to get to bed. I’d crawl in, but then it would feel like … Read more
The overlooked mental health condition tied to your cycle
If a human being could actually combust, you are pretty sure you’re about to. Your mind is racing. You can’t focus on this project. Everything feels like too much. You’re … Read more
