Do you know what your needs are? (FREE NEEDS WHEEL)
If you’ve been in therapy for any period of time, you’re familiar with how much we therapists just love to help you identify and describe your emotions. It’s kind of … Read more
Dr. Ashley Solomon
Is it time to take a leave of absence?
We are in an era, at least comparatively, where we are recognizing that we have this thing called mental health, and that it requires attention and tender care. It’s a … Read more
What I wish I knew (about myself) before marriage
I remember all those years ago sitting around a suburban living room with my closest girlfriends ready to be asked trivia questions about my soon-to-be husband. I was unreasonably nervous … Read more
Have you reached peak parental burnout?
It’s been almost 30 months since the pandemic bellowed into our lives, and the state of parenting is starting to look uncomfortably like it did before the world turned upside … Read more
The most common confessions I hear as a therapist
There are so many sacred moments in therapy, but there is one that is perhaps the most profound for me as a psychologist. Sometimes it happens within the first few … Read more
7 Sneaky Ways Perfectionism Destroys Your Impact
We’ve all heard the eye-roll-worthy response to the classic job interview question to reveal your greatest weakness: “I’m just too much of a perfectionist! I work tirelessly until the project … Read more
Six “Personality Traits” That Might Actually be Anxiety
If you landed on this post with its admittedly somewhat “click-baity” title, it’s probably because you’ve been curious about or already diagnosed with anxiety. One cool thing about people with … Read more
So the internet says you have ADHD
I’ve thought about writing this piece several times, but then would find myself overwhelmed by the complexity of the issue, struggling to formulate succinct thoughts, and admittedly nervous to piss … Read more
Do you know how therapy actually works?
I met with a new patient recently who had never met with a therapist before. Now, I love working with people with a whole range of experiences in therapy, but … Read more
The most magical phrase when you’re in conflict
If you want to resolve even the trickiest conflicts, have someone trust you with their heart, or elicit others’ deep loyalty to you, there’s a key phrase that you simply … Read more
What to do after your therapy session (+ what NOT to do)
These days, it’s not unusual for many of us to check in for our therapy appointments from our cars, chatter away while periodically checking our work cell, and rush from … Read more
Which subtype of burnout do you have?
When asked recently by a client in session whether everyone I am seeing lately is experiencing burnout, I barely let her finish her question before I blurted, “Oh, hell yes.” … Read more
