The Most Important Question I Ask In Therapy
When someone sits down with me and tells me about a difficult or traumatic experience they’ve endured – especially when that experience was early on in life – there are … Read more
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Story After State: Why Solving Your To-Do List Won’t Calm Your Nervous System
It’s Saturday morning and the tiniest hint of light is creeping in, just barely beginning to illuminate the dark blanket of sky outside of your window. Your eyes flash open … Read more
The Gap Between What Was and What’s Next
Rosalie had grown up on a small horse farm in southern Kentucky, where she spent her afternoons mucking stalls and bathing and feeding the horses. She was especially attuned to … Read more
The Paradox of Choice
I never realized what an offensive question, “What would you like for breakfast?” was until my youngest child came along. Faced with the decision of what to eat, especially in … Read more
Incrementalism in an Age of Despair
“Maybe working on the little things as as dutifully and honestly as we can is how we stay sane when the world is falling apart.” – Haruki Murakami There are … Read more
How to lose yourself
I was lying on a plush mat on the floor of a large room, an eye mask pulled down to block out the light. The nurse placed her warm hand … Read more
What Older Women Know: On invisibility, liberation, and the wisdom that comes with time
As the 2024 presidential election was picking up steam, one of JD Vance’s lightening comments resurfaced in which he complained that the country was soon to be run by “a … Read more
Time confetti and the urgency of flow for women
A close friend of mine sent me a text a few weeks back that asked me a sincere question. Like me, she’s a writer, and like me, it’s not her … Read more
The heartbreak of outgrowing our parents
If you ran into my dad in a theater or at a coffee shop, you would almost certainly end up having a long conversation – whether you had the time … Read more
Has divorce become the feminist litmus test?
When my own marriage started to unravel and it was clear that we were starting down the path of divorce, my stomach would seize up when I thought about sharing … Read more
Would you choose your partner over again?
I’m going to tell you the story of an interaction I had with my ex-husband several years ago. And he’s going to look like an asshole, and I’m going to … Read more
Moments of repair
I watched him maneuver toward her through the empty chairs and beach towels, stepping over the floaties that had been discarded by the littlest cousins. Second cousins? I could never … Read more
